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killrockstar:

maybe this is insensitive but i think if it’s such a problem to see puppy masks or bdsm harnesses at pride for u well i think you could probably just look away into a different direction. like i feel like you can just turn yr head and it won’t be a problem probably anymore.

Thank you for putting it into words so well, @rootscorrode

going to steal your tags @starfleetrambo​ because you’re right

I don’t care personally if people dress up as whatever and say they like consentual sex, for me it’s like you do that. People like all kinds of festivals and celebrations. And it is a celebration of life and that is wonderful. But I think…that if you want to get on the good side of gay haters you might want to focus on just the fact that the same gender is the thing? Maybe start with one thing at a time? Forcing people into accepting all kinds of sex and love combinations can be a bit too much too soon. I think I get it, it’s based on anger to all the people who are trying to make them feel unwelcomed and unloved. So they reeeaaally want to rub it in. Take a look at me, I am free. And harnesses and collars is the latest rebellious act. But …maybe because the festival is so powerful in itself then maybe being gay seems less threatening afterwards? I just don’t think the world is ready for that amount of change all at once. But…why not dress up and have some fun? I think ALOT of people have a problem with sex and love in general, and that goes for alot of collar/harness people as well. It’s just a very sensitive subject that gets handled with brute force. But…that is how we handle sex and feelings anyways in society today so it’s kinda right on time. It’s hard so we protect ourselves. Because we are all really like that hermit crab, reaaaally fucking sensitive when it all boils down to our core. So I get it. I get the leather and chains and ropes and whatnot. It’s us defending ourselves against the hella scary becoming One with someone. Let’s not do THAT, we’re just playing here…! But yeah I get it, but I don’t think the world does.

Listen.

I don’t want anyone to be mean to you because you seem young, or at least young in terms of exploring this sort of topic, maybe?

But you have radically misunderstood what kink is about, friend, and how long it’s been around. And most of what you are assuming and saying is… really dismissive and inaccurate. You’re projecting.

We don’t want to rub it in, we want to express pride and joy. I don’t mean shallow, individualist pride, I mean the deepest sense. True community, true LOVE for our community. Pride is an affirmation by us, for us. (Including the kink community.) Not a way to show off for other people.

The haters will never respect us no matter what we do. We aren’t aiming for that with Pride or with our personal behavior. If that worked, it would have worked by now. We do not and should not and cannot build a future on the goodwill of those who do not want us to see the future.

Kink isn’t just about how you dress. Mostly you can’t even tell (though a lot of kinky folks do ham it up at Pride, and I support that). It isn’t about hiding from or avoiding anything or sending a message to people outside the wider kink and queer community. It isn’t about distancing yourself from the world or especially your partner. It isn’t for everyone, but it is a deep and deeply misunderstood thing.

And it has been here for a very very long time. It isn’t new or a “these days” faddish thing, it is an integral part of our community and always has been from the first. If you’re as young as you sound, MANY leather daddies have leather passed down to them from people doing this stuff before your parents were born. If you don’t know the significance of AT LEAST that, please don’t speak about what kink is or isn’t really about.

I’m really sorry you have such deep-rooted misconceptions. I hope you understand better someday.

And Pride and kink and queerness and gayness it is a LOT MORE than same gender. There is a LOT MORE to queerness than who you love and who you have sex with. And I hope someday you understand that too.

So, fun bit of my history: in 2012, I was working as an field organizer in the Seattle area. 2012 was the year we voted to legalize two things: weed, and gay marriage. (I think we lose sight of the fact that this was a mere 11 years ago.)

One of my most reliable, dedicated volunteers was an older man, and when he was taking a break from the phone bank, we talked about what this moment in history meant to him. He told me about obtaining a marriage license in one of the brief windows where Washington recognized gay marriage, and waiting for it to be permanent. He told me how you could tell who had been to electroshock therapy to try to “cure” themselves, because the hair on their arms was melted.

And he told me about how in the Pride marches—back when they were marches, not parades, he said—the bears and the leather daddies would walk on the outside, to make a wall between the softer queer folks, and what was being thrown at them.

So yeah. I keep that in mind whenever we talk about what, exactly, belongs at Pride.

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